Sunday, June 26, 2011

Colorblind? No.

Several weeks ago, on a trip to Walmart, my 3 year old said to the check-out lady, "I really like your colors. Your arm is pretty." My heart skipped a few beats as I looked up to see the response on her face. You see, this woman was African-American. I can't tell you how thankful I am that she understood my son was giving her a very high compliment. I have mulled this incident over and over in my mind. Certainly I am not the first parent with a preschooler who felt the need to audibly verbalize every thought in his precocious head. In looking for methods for explaining races to a preschooler, I came up discouraged and irritated.

It seems the prevailing thought is to teach children to be colorblind. How stupid. (Hang with me here.) That would be like teaching a child that all of his/her toys are green. Of course you could teach your child that everything is green, but she would clearly know that not everything is green and that you are not being forthright with her. One explanation I read proposed that perhaps we aren't different colors at all, but rather varying shades of the same color. I don't really know how I feel about that, so I put the thought on the back-burner. The fact of the matter is we are very afraid of race issues. Do you wonder what would happen if we quit fearing race issues and embraced our different skin colors? This is why I have decided to say a very firm "no" to the theory of teaching my child to be colorblind.

In every other area of life, be it flowers, trees, animals or food, my child is taught to embrace the creativity of our Creator. (Gen 1:27) Why would the subject of race be treated any differently? People come in all sorts of shapes, sizes and colors...and this is a wonderful and beautiful fact! What a creative God I have! A God who does not make us all the same, but creates beautiful hues of skin color. Gorgeous browns that have the sheen of silk, rich olives that radiate in the sun, lovely yellows that set off the richest of colors in a way that no other skin tone possibly could. One popular Christian speaker says, "Let's be color-BLESSED."

Our family sponsors a beautiful young lady who lives in a Kenyan orphanage. We love Esther dearly and have the opportunity to be her 'parents' by way of financially caring for her, sending letters of encouragement and ensuring that her health, her education and her physical needs are met. We pray for her continually and have pictures of her throughout our home. On Mother's Day of this year I received a letter from my Esther. The letter still brings me to tears and is kept with all of her other letters and pictures alongside Jackson and Bryant's baby books. The sentence that gets me every single time I read it is this, "I love you very much, my good parents and I love my brothers, Jackson and Baby Bryant." Jackson asks about Esther quite often. He once asked, "Can my sister have different colors on her than me?" I answered him with an emphatic "Yes!"

After much, much thought on this subject I decided to learn from my child. He sees different skin colors as beautiful. He sees them a blessing and a thing to embrace. Why explain things in any other manner? When my children question me about race my answer will be simple. My answer will be, "God, in His love and creativity, made us all different and that is a very good thing."

For by Him, all things were created... Col 1:16

2 comments:

  1. When the boys from Desire Street came, Berry, being only about 4, asked Chris why he was black and his hands pink. Chris asked her why she was pink. We had a day long discussion on the color of skin.
    I was brought up with the "color-blind" train-of-thought. It was completely bogus because we couldn't "date" boys that were a different race. They weren't "color-blind" at all. Don't get me wrong, they raised us all well, it's just their generation taught them to be racists and it takes a long time to take that out of them. Being elderly and with dementia has been a blessing by taking those thoughts away.
    Bean knows it best, we choose our friends by the color of their hearts not the color of their skin. Berry is not far behind. Even a 10 year old still needs simple explanations, but yours is more than that, it's beautiful and something even adults could learn from.

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  2. Great post Lisa! We too teach our children to embrace the beauty of God's creativity in creating us all different; be it in color, physical stature, or ability (our church has a thriving special needs ministry). God in His great omnipotence knew that we could learn through each others differences, and see a unique reflection of Him through them.

    I also follow another blog that wrote a post about this very thing...I thought I would share: http://mycharmingkids.net/?s=colorblind

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